Sorry I'm not in a light-hearted mood lately. I have been learning a great deal about my perceptions lately. Usally it gets me in trouble. For example, I perceive a relationship to be one way and then I over think what the other person perceives the relationship to be, open my mouth about how I'm hurt and bang! Bad move. Back in the days of Bobbie, she would have me verbaly say to Bill, "From my perception..." It was terrific. Not only did Bill hear ok , this is how she sees things, I was reminded that maybe I didn't have it right. We have moved past that however, now I think it could be a valuable tool in my friendships. I have never been a real emotional type girl. I think the hardest part about friendships for me is figuring out where you stand. Like remember in high school it was easy to figure out your BFFs. It was who you spent every passing period and lunch with. You had lots of "friends" but your closest ones were the ones you spent most of your time with. As adult women it gets weird. Why is she going to lunch. nails, coffee, etc with her and not me? Yuck!! Why are women so weird like that? That is why guys think we're crazy! The whole idea of friendships and the seasons they go through are very um don't even have a word for it to me.
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Oh!!! I am so there with you my friend!!! Then you put loyalties, where you think they are secure, and it turns out that they are not. Or worse yet, you become the stalker!!! This is one of my reasons I stay off of facebook. It keeps the drama at bay. I don't know who you had coffee with today, but I hope you had fun. I had coffee with my washing machine just so you know and it wasn't very fun, but productive! I am looking forward to our playdate next week! Let me rest assured.......you are my friend, and I am also very blessed that our kids can be friends as well.
ReplyDeleteI want to be friends with you guys too!! Ha. We are in the same boat girl. Just know you can call me, I'm your friend.
ReplyDeleteOh boy, Jennita, how I relate to this! For me what happens is that someone asks me to have coffee or lunch or something, and it seems wonderful and I think "cool, I have a new friend!" but then they don't return calls or invitations to come for dinner, basically making it clear they don't want to be friends. It makes me wonder what's wrong with me that I can't see! I actually asked a friend I knew would be brutally honest with me, thinking I would FINALLY know what my personality disorder was, and she said she couldn't think of anything...so I guess I'm back to square one. :P
ReplyDeleteI sure do wish we could say "This is how I'm feeling" and not have it ruin the friendship because now you're "drama", but it seems that's just not possible. We're adults, and yet it was so easier to do when we were children...